........................................................................................ - a weBlog by Snowy and me.

Sunday, 30 October 2016

Beyond The Binaries

that inform sexual behavior - jealousy,
possessiveness and other irrationalities -
lives asexuality, a foreign land to most males.

It is a place of being
where touch is natural,
cool, and yet still sensual.
There arousal confines itself
to the mind, and the body
knows the folly of it's actions.

It is oasis I wish I stay in
-and have a fuller life.

But alas.... ....at age 13
I was serially sexually assaulted.
The matter was efficiently buried,
particularly by me. Incoherence,
was a given, given what happened.
How I misunderstood life at the time
was used against me for decades,
in ways I could not understand.

Ten years ago the memory/event resurfaced,
clean and raw. If my life were a desert
then that event was like Cain seeking rest
he could not find. And I was divided
from who I could be when being myself 
was meant most to be a repeatable epiphany.

What price/value finding that wholesome
and sensual place? Discovering acceptance?

Saturday, 29 October 2016

The More Things Change....

....the more they stay the same. It was the 1.6 percent in 1860 who were slave owners
 who decided for the 98.4 percent of the population of The American South whether
 to go into a civil war against the The North to defend the source of wealth of the
 1.6 percent. Now the richest (and most educated) 1 percent of the world's richest
 population choose from their own who should lead the 99 percent whilst disguising
 their contempt. A lot of the wealth of the 1 percent comes from owning the means
 of telling the 99 percent how to live and who to vote for.    

The Eternity Of Words

Novels are anecdote,
informed the shaggy-dog logic
of 'modern psychology'.

That is not to say
that novels are bad;
many are more reliable
than the human friendships
through which we exchange,
and pass on, values and materials.

For as much as they remain,
in print, and read, novels do offer
an eternity through language
that we can only try to understand.

Friday, 28 October 2016

Farmers, Hunters,

zookeepers and naturalists etc
all act like they are God's Gift
to a planet that is shrinking and in pain.
The rest of us look on
at our self appointed experts
not knowing who - or what -
to be appalled at most, ourselves
for accepting our representatives?
Or those who claim to represent us?

Thursday, 27 October 2016

Education Is Anecdote

rendered in concrete,
the better to normalize us
into living in sarcophagi
of being well misinformed.

Wednesday, 26 October 2016

The Homeless And Poor

I most admire are those who disguise what they lack
in bricks and mortar with good basic daily hygiene,
great tailoring, and a personal charm
that can be lethally distant when they need to it to be.

Alas, in the mania for rendering everything/everyone property
they make up all too few of those forced to live without houses.

Tuesday, 25 October 2016

Unsticky Bonds

Introverts are said to have difficulty meeting people,
but that is not quite the case. They will still they will try,
but having met once, the difficulty comes in continuity.

Introverts find it harder to keep in touch
when after having met by chance
further meeting have to be worked at.

In other words introverts have difficulties
the forming firm bonds that they want to hold them.

Monday, 24 October 2016

Preserved By The Cracks

Hearts are like homes, both are fragile
both will break with sufficient stress.
With patience both will repair and renew.
But only as long as we accept the cracks
that lend them a new flexible vitality.

Sunday, 23 October 2016

The Death Of 'Religion'

comes to an individual
when they become bored
with the idea of being ashamed
and they forget the rules
by which guilt is maintained.

Saturday, 22 October 2016

Flexible Agreements

People agree with each other every day.
On the easy subjects this is okay.
But the best agreements are those
between people who have had to work
harder at how to accept each other,
the more to renew each other's separate spaces.

The harder the work to successfully agree,
the greater the flexibility in the relationship
the deeper the sense of mutual credit.

Friday, 21 October 2016

Thursday, 20 October 2016

'It Is Not Us, It Is You...'

One of the symptoms of depression
that is harder to unravel than folks realize
is that how other people
will make you feel mean and cheap.

Particularly when they say
 'We always do our best for you'
and other cliched responses.

They will make it seem
that all attempts at getting rid of bad feeling
are purely a reflection of ones' self.

Wednesday, 19 October 2016

Proper Politics

is Party Political Leaders
using the wealth of their abilities
to flatter those unconverted
to their cause, and do much more
than weakly feign interest
in representing all their constituents
-particularly those who did not vote for them.

Tuesday, 18 October 2016

Today's Reading Matters

Just the cover is nutritious enough, you can browse it in the newsagents....

Relative Citizenship

Representative Democracy
is a system of self selecting feedback
apparently based purely on votes,
which is actually based on the self esteem,
derived from their wealth and social status,
of the individuals doing the voting.

The votes of all populations
are there to be bought with promises.
The emptier the promise
the sweeter it sounds
and more it will be promoted
by the wealthy, for poorer
voting cannon fodder to vote for.

Monday, 17 October 2016

On Patriotism

Charity begins at home
and usually does not travel far
before it loses all generosity.

Sunday, 16 October 2016

When 'Good Manners' Mask False Relations

I have never understood
the kind of people who think
that pushing others to be alone
will cure them of wanting company
less often in future,
as if sociability is the acme of life.

Be alone if you wish, enjoy company too.
But choose your company-just your own
or other people's by open agreement.
Let other people choose for themselves.

Saturday, 15 October 2016

From Charles Darwin to Monsanto In A Few Easy Steps

'The Survival of the fittest'
was a phrase coined by Francis Galton,
who was a cousin of Charles Darwin,
initially to summarize Darwin's ideas
in one reductive and effective phrase.
Like many such phrases it missed the point
-fitness for life is proved much more
by adaption where what you rely upon
survives than it does by mere proclamation.

Words are like wars, proof of egotism beyond belief.
If you need proof for this, consider how Francis Galton's
rhetoric helped found the eugenics movement.
Galton started by mis-breeding cattle, then dogs
and more, until his words mis-bred with each other.

Capitalists sure see those whose energies they abuse
as sub-human the way Francis Galton once did.
Genetically Modified Capitalism anyone?

Friday, 14 October 2016

The Impossibility Of Mass Altruism

So what if youths mine their unconscious,
in a society where mind altering drugs
and drink are cheap this is to be expected.
I wish I'd done more myself in that regard.

But when their mining reveals an ever deeper
chasm of self centred consumerism,
which advances the cult of individual,
it surely reveals that society is badly shafted.

Thursday, 13 October 2016

Us - Them = Rest?

The currency of life is money and time.
Before the invention of debt it was just time
which with few time pieces was highly flexible.

When money and time are well invested
they create a sense of rewarding longevity.
When they were used to disinvest in others
then other people become soldiers
in an undeclared war, and all life is devalued
-because war devalues everything it touches.

We like to pretend that employers
are people, people who contract
to exchange their money
for their employees time and labour;
But whatever employers project,
most of their money is debt.
People have to think for themselves
if their lives are not to shrink
from shrunken means of bargaining
for over-inflated opportunities.

Wednesday, 12 October 2016

The Age Of Responcibility

Having finally reached the age
where I feel nearly comfortable
about my mistakes, because I see
that some of them are correctable
-though many errors are permanent.
I am even happier to let other folks
find their mistakes in their own time
and let them correct themselves.

Tuesday, 11 October 2016

We Should Not Mind

our lawmakers passing laws that are over prescriptive
in the cause of trying to make us better citizens.
Particularly when they create weak supervision
and ineffective penalties for breaking said laws,
and then expect us to comply for no apparent cause.

Monday, 10 October 2016

Ever Felt Watched?

Not that him being bored will stop him knowing more than you realize...

Sunday, 9 October 2016

The Future Is In The Balance

I look forward to the day when reverse psychology
(the exposure to something unattractive
to proves it's uglyness) is brought to bear
upon the varying degrees of contrarianism
which plumb the depths of human hypocrisy.

Saturday, 8 October 2016

Positively Rare...

Perhaps it is only with food,
food that is personally prepared
for a few, that praise, appreciation,
and honesty are combined
- and all three seem equal.

Friday, 7 October 2016

No Rest From The Wicked

Good and Evil work seven days out of seven,
in their perpetual war against each other,
their battlefield being all that has life on earth.
So when faiths set rules about days of rest
you can be sure their laws have enough
holes in them that the war which they deny
through man-made regulation will continue.....

You decide whose side their laws favour...

Thursday, 6 October 2016

Commercial Ownership Take A New Turn

Popular ownership makes it's less worthy consumers even more disposable, and more popular....

Wednesday, 5 October 2016

When Satisfaction Is Something To Be Bought

Young men who live in cities
live as if they own those places,
but they never have and never will.
They are little boys in bodies
that are enlarged by appetite and choice.
Their vanity is a given.
With enough money they can have a sex drive
to match, and the consequent thirst for property
(something that is more difficult to secure).

But they will also have
a shrunken attention span
for the gentler detail of life.

Monday, 3 October 2016

Sunday, 2 October 2016

Signs Of Greater Age (39)

1-preferring to talk to people
face to face, or at worst on the phone,
rather than deal with a matter on-line;
The matter dealt with remains the same
but the eye contact and/or tone of voice
which you employed to deal with it
should show that you still have charm
along with self control and reason.

2-preferring sex to happen by appointment,
this gives you more time to prepare for it
and give you the small but frequent buzz
of anticipation, if not reliving a few memories.
These add to the sense of reward before the event.

3-for spontaneous release jokes and laughter
take less effort than sex does, and if the jokes are old
(they usually have to be to be told well) it is proof
that, like you, they have worn well and still work.

Saturday, 1 October 2016

The Limits Of Competitiveness

Wanting to be the best will never make anyone the best.
Wanting to be the best will never everyone be the best.
The Best are who they are for being the version of themselves
that they could aspire to be at that point in their life
-as recognized by other equals and betters.

For as long as the best, and the rest, remain alive
then other times for excellence remain available for all.