Between Lust And Tenderness

Philip Larking wrote
'To be honest in sex is to be tender,
to be tender is not to be lustful,
then clearly, between tenderness
and lust, a large gap remains
to be bridged. I won't say
'It Doesn't Matter', but it is
all a question of luck, isn't it?'

from his posthumously published
correspondence 'Letters to Monica'