The difference between a fetish and a relationship
is one of process, understanding: with a fetish
one dresser-up dresses to shock or impress another,
until the one who is impressed cannot process
what they are impressed by any further.
Enter collapse and decline in the relationship.
You can read about this in 'Venus in Furs'.
I read the book twice, to try to understand it better.
Whereas in a relationship the parties see past
the need to impress. Seeking instead to make the relationship
more about their natural selves, no dressing up required.
Maturity is like some comfy chair they both share
which is neither 'I' nor 'You', but an 'Us' they both occupy.
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