When people say they seek love,
as opposed to friendship or sex,
what they mean is that they are
looing for that personal chemistry
with someone else that renews itself
without them being over effortful.
This chemistry may well be sought
but it can only be found by accident.
Once it is kindled, it is a thing of joy
that feels like forever for those in it.
But the sting in the tail
for those who enjoy the otherness
that their choice of company brings
-they have to quietly enjoy
being themselves first.